As a mom it is so easy to fall into the habit of constantly giving, constantly focusing on taking care of everyone.
But don’t forget about you!
I am guilty of looking to the well being of everyone around me without making sure I am ok. I take care of everyone and empty myself until I reach my breaking point.
When I reach that point, in all honesty I am not truly taking care of everyone the way I think I am.
I am learning to take time for myself. Do the things that fill me up, that give me energy, that I find fun.
If I don’t take care of myself first how can I do everything God has called me to?
So what is it that you do for yourself? The key is it has to be something no one else can control, something just for you.
It takes discipline and an understanding that it’s not selfish to take care of yourself and have fun. The people you take care of, that depend on you need the best version of you.
It was one of those days, I was standing in my kitchen listening to my two year old scream at the top of his lungs because I told him he couldn’t have something.
I found myself thinking of when would he grow out of his terrible tantrum days.
I was exhausted and my ears hadn’t stopped ringing all day.
Later that night my daughter woke up crying, because she couldn’t find her pacificier.
As I sat in the rocking chair holding my not so little one year old, time seemed to have paused.
I looked down at my baby, perfectly resting in my arms I realized I needed to savor the moment, the season.
I can get so caught up in moving forward, what’s on the agenda for the next day, things I need to get done, etc. that I forget each season has a purpose.
“So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Imagine if we lived each day knowing it has a purpose. How much more intentional would we be to find God working in and through the fabric of our lives?
If I get too consumed with the next season I will miss the blessings of my current season.
So enjoy today. Find those moments when time seems to pause and savor therichness of your season.
As a mom working in ministry I am constantly learning about balance.
One thing about balance that I have learned is that it’s not always equal. Different seasons require more than others.
Having a balanced life doesn’t mean equal amount of resources given to each area at the same time, it means understanding the ebb and flow of each season.
Let’s think of it this way: Imagine a tight-rope walker. They walk a thin line, using a pole (sometimes) to help keep their balance. The pole and the weight distribution is not always even. The pole moves slightly from one side to another, yet the person is always right in the middle.
The same goes for life. Each season requires different amounts of our resources (physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally).
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven”
In order to achieve a healthy balance in our lives we need to understand our priorities and the demands of each season we are walking. It’s important to be realistic with our understanding of the seasons. What may seem like a high demand emotionally, physically it may not be feasible.
The best check for our balance is our daily quiet times with the Lord. If we make Jesus our priority He will direct our steps and therefore control the balance we have in our lives.
The only way I can “balance” being a wife, having four children, and working in ministry is having my priorities set and a clear understanding of the season I am in.